“It Doesn’t Work Like That!” Playing Kinky Games
To play the dominance/submission game, you have to know how the game works
"I am going to buy a paddle for you and use it on you next time,” he said to me offhandedly
I answered, "Um, I am not so sure about that "
Without missing a beat, he coldly replied, "Doesn't matter. You don't have a choice"
Say what? Um, yes I do! Sorry, but it doesn't work like that!
Some context: I identify as a sexually submissive woman and have played many a kinky game with dominant men. I make a distinction between being submissive in an adjective sense versus being submissive in the noun sense. I distinguish my dominant partners in the same way. I also make a difference between play with a casual partner and play with a serious partner. Casual partners only have me as a submissive woman (adjective). A more serious partner may have me as his submissive (noun). There is a difference.
The man who made these remarks about the paddle to me was a casual partner. While I was generally sexually submissive to him the two times that we had sex, I was in no way his submissive. I was not his girlfriend or fuck buddy or play partner. I was definitely not his submissive. We did not really have a relationship at all, much…
